Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Coleman, a reflection.
Are you having a hard time understanding your own emotions?
Isolation? Anxiety? Pessimism? Hopelessness?
The antidote for emotional issues is at the core of the remarkable book of Daniel Coleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ.
Daniel Coleman explains how to deal with our emotional issues to gain a better outlook on life.
As I commit myself to read a book per month, I would like to share with you my 3 reflections on the book:
- DON’T THINK TWICE: Use Our Two Minds in Making Life’s Decision
- ANXIETY AGAIN: How to deal with it?
- What Makes One See The Light At The End Of the Tunnel?
The book suits those who look for answers with their emotional issues.
Also, the book fits those who watch for emotional storms before they even arise.
“It is when times are good that you gird yourself for tougher times ahead.”Seneca
What Makes One See The Light At The End Of the Tunnel?
What do we want in this life?
To find happiness? To publish a book? To be successful?
Remember when we finally have an opportunity to work on something that would help us achieve our goal, we give it our all: our time, our passion, and our self.
But, when we face a major mistake or when nobody likes our work, we doubt ourselves and lose our drive to pursue our goal.
We say it is too difficult, we’re never enough, and we’re not capable of doing anything.
But nothing worth having comes easy.
“There are hundreds and hundreds of ways to succeed, and many, many different abilities that will help you get there.”Howard Gardner, a psychologist at the Harvard School of Education.
No matter how big our dreams are, if our emotions get swayed easily, we will never get far. Or worse, we will never get there.
To get there, we need some tools that can keep us going. These tools are called hope and optimism.
“Hope is to believe you have both the will and the way to accomplish your goals, whatever they may be.”C. R. Snyder, a psychologist at the University of Kansas.
When emotional pain from rejections or major failures, we hope it to end. Who would want to be stuck in pain anyway?
This hope comes along with optimism – our mental projection that things will turn out all right again. They are like butter and bread for life’s biggest dilemmas.
Without these two, every difficult situation would seem impassable.
The story of how J.K. Rowling turned her rejection into a story of success is the manifestation of the power of hope and optimism.
In her 20s, she had a divorce. She was also jobless and was a lone parent. In short, she was an epic failure.
But she found out that there was still hope in an arena where she believed she belonged – writing. Right there and then, she directed her energy into it and completed the only work that mattered to her.
Her problems never came to an end when she completed her work; many publishers rejected her work.
It seemed nobody wanted to publish her book. But she stayed hopeful and positive.
Until in 1997, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone was finally published. In 2018, the book has made a worldwide sale of 120 million copies.
“I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.”J.K. Rowling during her commencement speech at Harvard University.
The story of J.K. Rowling is a true source of inspiration for many. Especially for those who are losing the drive to achieve their goals.
Her success never came easy. If it were easy, everybody would do it.
She is not different from us. She has goals, she has problems, and she has failures.
Remember that it is very human to have failures. Failure humbles us, teaches us a lesson, and drives us to do better next time.
If we have everything, then we have nothing to hope for, nothing to be positive about, and nothing to look forward to.
Keep our hope and optimism alive until we see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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My 2020 goal is to read a book per month; share with people what I learn from and feel about the book. For May 2020, the book I read is Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Coleman.