Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Coleman, a reflection.
Are you having a hard time understanding your own emotions?
Isolation? Anxiety? Pessimism? Hopelessness?
The antidote for emotional issues is at the core of the remarkable book of Daniel Coleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ.
Daniel Coleman explains how to deal with our emotional issues to gain a better outlook on life.
As I commit myself to read a book per month, I would like to share with you my 3 reflections on the book:
- DON’T THINK TWICE: Use Our Two Minds in Making Life’s Decision
- ANXIETY AGAIN: How to deal with it?
- What Makes One See The Light At The End Of the Tunnel?
The book is perfect for those who look for answers with their emotional issues.
Also, the book fits those who watch for emotional storms before they even arise.
“It is when times are good that you gird yourself for tougher times ahead.”Seneca
DON’T THINK TWICE: Use Our Two Minds in Making Life’s Decision
We have been told a lie.
We have two minds, not one.
In making important decisions in life, our two minds—the rational and emotional—go along.
Rationality alone is not the only thing to consider in choosing who to marry.
Nobody brings a person to a laboratory to make a quantitative analysis of how much they love him/her, do they?
Our rational mind can tell the qualities we look for a person. But knowing these qualities with our rational mind is not enough.
We wait for that cupid spark called ‘she/he is the one’ before we propose (with an exception to arranged marriages).
This is one of the many examples where reason without feelings is blind.
“The emotional/rational dichotomy approximates the fold distinction between ‘heart’ and ‘head’; knowing something is right ‘in your heart’ is a different order of conviction—somehow a deeper kind of certainty—than thinking so with your rational mind… the more intense the feeling, the more dominant the emotional mind becomes—and the more ineffectual the rational.”Daniel Coleman, author of Emotional Intelligence.
In pursuing our highest potential, it is important to have the ability to connect with ourselves and with people around us. This ability is called emotional intelligence.
“Emotional intelligence: abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep the distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.”Daniel Coleman, author of Emotional Intelligence.
The key player that underlies emotional intelligence is self-awareness, understanding one’s emotion.
People who are self-aware have a clear perception of their emotions.
They act on their emotional problems more appropriately.
And this helps them bounce back far more quickly from life’s upsets.
The other is empathy, the ability to know how another feels.
The capacity to be empathic comes into play in many walks of life: teaching, romance, and parenting.
Being unaware of our emotions can take a toll on our career, our relationship, and our life.
So in making the most important decisions in our lives, let us find the balance between our mind and our heart.
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My 2020 goal is to read a book per month; share with people what I learn from and feel about the book. For May 2020, the book I read is Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Coleman.